Nate: man, I lost x amount of weight. wish i had lost more.
moi: thats great! and if you lose over 2 lbs you know WW is going to give you a warning that it's not healthy.
Nate: I know but I earned all these AP's and didn't even eat them.
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Nate: I feel like we should go out tonight and celebrate.
moi: why?
Nate: well, I just weighed in and want to eat out.
moi:...inserteyeroll...were you just not complaining you didnt lose enough!? and you want to go out to eat?
Nate: yeah but there is something about just having weighed in that wants me to go out and eat!
now, if you've read for a while, you'll know Nate and I used to eat out a lot. we love to eat out at least we did until we started watching our pennies and our Points, so the whole going out to dinner didn't bother me what bothed me was this....
Nate: I feel like we should go out tonight and celebrate.It's that I am working very hard at changing my thinking. Thinking that has gotten me to where I am today and unfortunately Nate isn't tackling that same problem. We don't need to call going out 'celebrating' when we aren't celebrating anything. It's just eating out.
Weight watchers issued an interesting article regarding this what they call the twilight zone, a specific amount of time where once chooses not to count Points or calories, and instead indulges uncontrollably. This usually is the result of too much restriction or deprivation that has occurred during the week.
I have spoken of this before that my reward on Fridays would usually be a Diet Coke and preferably a pound of peanut M&M's, it's taken time to ween myself off of those addictions physically as well as mentaly. I'm finally getting to a point where I can enjoy a good time/experience without resorting to food.
Now, all I need to do is to get Nate to change his thinking. Hhhhmmm...maybe losing weight will be easier! =)
When I was REALLY losing back when I started WW again, I never had this mentality.
ReplyDeleteNow I do, and I don't like it.
You read my mind! I've been working on thinking of other rewards instead of just eating out to celebrate. Think about it...what are we celebrating? I used to think every lb deserved a celebration, but in reality - it should be major milestones, not weekly weigh ins.
ReplyDeleteNow, I tell my boyfriend that maybe we should go out and DO something...versus go out and EAT.
Rebecca,
ReplyDeleteI am so glad your back from Vaca. I hope you had fun, I missed your posts though. Your Honest take on things is fun to read. I loved your post on BlogHer ..... it is so refreshing to hear what it was really like , again because of your honest account of things with some humor thrown it !
Have a great week too !
Susan
Thanks for leaving a comment, you're a sweetheart. Just what I needed to read.:-)
ReplyDeleteI can't remember if I said this before but I think it's really great that you can see how he's just not in the place you are with things and that he needs his own journey or whatever to get there. Understanding that and dealing with the situation as it is is so important for your sanity, as opposed to having pointless arguments about it all the time trying to make him see something he just can't yet. I think the suggestion of doing something that's not eating out is a good idea. Celebrating with time at the park or a bike ride, is he the one who loves to bike?, instead of food. Celebrations and deserving and earning are all sort of screwed up when it comes to thinking about food.
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